Velvet Lilith
Bio: Velvet Lilith is a sensual provocateur, shame disruptor, and devoted guide into the realms of embodied pleasure. She creates spaces where Eros is not something to hide, but something to honour. As a facilitator, she holds immersive workshops, events, retreats, and Temples of erotic connection that invite people into deeper relationship with their bodies, boundaries, and desires. These spaces are crafted to feel both playful and profound, where curiosity is celebrated, consent is foundational, and every part of you is welcome.
As a mentor, she supports people to peel back the layers of shame, cultural conditioning, and internalised ‘shoulds’, so they can discover who they are when nothing is being performed or repressed. Her work is rooted in sex-positivity, nervous system awareness, and the deep belief that pleasure is not a luxury — it’s a birthright. She is not here to tell you how to be erotic. She is here to help you remember that you already are.
Festival Offering:
What turns you on: We all have things that turn us on, some we embrace and celebrate, some we keep tucked away, and some we don’t quite understand… yet.
What Turns You On is a workshop inviting you to explore your unique erotic wiring with curiosity and non-judgement. Rooted in the work of psychotherapist Jack Morin (The Erotic Mind), we’ll unpack the themes, emotions, and experiences that shape your arousal and how things like taboo, longing, and even shame can amplify your turn-ons. Whether your desires feel crystal clear or confusing, this is a space to get to know them more deeply knowing you don’t need to fix, justify, or share more than you want to.
What We’ll Explore: How your erotic imagination was shaped by your life story The emotional flavours hidden inside your fantasies Ways to transform shame into curiosity More insights into what turns you on
What to expect: Somatic memory drop-in to connect with past erotic experiences Journaling and guided inquiry Optional pair and group exercises (always opt-in) Tools for self-reflection, compassion, and erotic self-understanding
- Tools to understand their unique erotic wiring and what truly turns them on.
- Insight into how life experiences have shaped their arousal and imagination.
- Understanding of the emotional layers behind fantasies and desires.
- Permission to explore taboo, longing, and shame with curiosity instead of judgement.
- Practices for transforming shame into self-acceptance and possibility.
- Confidence to get curious about desires without needing to fix, justify, or perform.
- Self-compassion and gentleness toward parts of themselves they may have hidden.
- Language & frameworks (from Jack Morin’s work) to better understand arousal patterns.
- Integration practices like journaling, guided inquiry, and reflection to take home.
- Opportunity to hear other’s stories